Heal From Narcissistic Abuse - How to Break Free of Narcissistic and Abusive Relationships

The first step is getting them to open up to you about what was happening to them before you and what was happening in their heads when you abused them. This may be hard because your abuser will not admit anything, even to you.

You cannot win in a fight; you cannot negotiate; you can't ask them to please you or to understand. You must first recognize that they did not mean what they said, that what they said was intended as a reprimand, an instruction, a reminder. If you cannot connect the words, they used with what they did, even if you find it odd, you are likely suffering from narcissistic abuse. They hurt you in ways you cannot relate to anyone else. They violated your sense of worth, your self-esteem, and you were left feeling inadequate, worthless like no good happened. Healing from narcissistic abuse does not start with you for giving them or forgetting them; it begins with you understanding how they thought and how they acted.

Where to Start?

Healing from Narcissistic Abuse may begin by talking to a professional therapist, a psychiatrist, or a psychologist, someone who specializes in mental health disorders and their treatment. These are the people who have been there, done that, and know what you are going through. They will help you realize where you are messed up, how your emotions are working against you, and what you need to do to heal yourself. If you don't talk to anyone about it, how are you going to heal?

It is one thing to read about someone recovering from Narcissistic Abuse. It is another thing entirely to experience it yourself. I have been where you are now, and I can tell you that it's not easy. Healing from Narcissistic Abuse is not something you can rush into, but it is something that you will conquer if you keep at it. There are some steps you will need to take to heal from Narcissistic Abuse.

Your recovery from Narcissistic Abuse must come from the inside out. The first step is to stop engaging in any of the mind games, manipulation, and emotionally manipulating behaviors that caused the abuse in the first place. You have to unlearn what the narcissist did to you and get in touch with your unconscious mind to learn why you allow this behavior to continue. You must not blame yourself or try and rationalize away what your victim did to you.

After learning why you allowed the Narcissistic Behavior to continue in your relationship, you must then forgive your partner for their behavior. There may be anger, hurt, and bitterness towards the victim that you need to release. This does not mean you should forget how you felt about the victim or let them off the hook. It does mean that you have to unlearn everything you associated with the victim in the past. For example, if you went on a date with an abusive person, you might not want to go on another date with that person, but you could take a few moments and reflect on what you learned about that person from your prior relationship and why you are okay with the person now.

If you are going through this healing process, you will need to be aware of the many ways your partner can try to gaslight you. You must differentiate between the legitimate reasons your partner has for accusing you and the narcissistic behaviors they are trying to use against you to get you to blame yourself. You may be accused of trying to make excuses for your abuser when all the time they are using you as a human shield. Your abuser will also likely accuse you of being jealous or unstable because of the relationship. Both of these things are actually ways that they are trying to get you to blame yourself for the problems in the relationship, and they usually work.

Final Word

Suppose you have suffered from trauma or narcissistic abuse like this before. It will be even harder to heal from this abuse. Healing from trauma requires time, support, and accountability from you and from the victim. If you are in an abusive relationship and want to break free, you will need to be very careful about not falling back into the patterns your abuser used to use on you. You must learn new ways of relating to and managing your own pain and anger. Narcissistic Apocalypse is a narcissist support group that helps you deal with that trauma and come out on top.